"Hello Miss Khadija, my name is Bailey and I heard you speak. I was hoping you could help me change my life too. I feel unsure about myself and I want you to teach me to be like you."
You: "Well Bailey I would be happy to teach you my lifestyle, but I live a strict life. No smoking, no drinking, no partying, no pork, and no sex before getting into a serious relationship. It's a lifestyle that gives up many pleasures, but I don't want to slide back into the gang life."
Bailey: "I don't want to accidentally hook up at a party then find out I'm pregnant. I want you to teach me anyway. I can give that stuff up. When do we start?"
You: "Your new life starts right now."